//the short version of the story

28 Feb

once upon a time there was a boy who met a girl. he didn’t like her when he first met her, for some no-named reason and though she probably found him attractive, she wasn’t especially impressed after being introduced to his pretentious comments. but from that day on, the two ended up sharing many mutual friends.

they were often in the same place at the same time. it came to the point where the boy asked the girl to talk on the phone one night, in order to become “better friends.” that first phone conversation turned into hundreds and then thousands of minutes of shared conversation. what blossomed was a best-friendship.

eventually the boy developed feelings for the girl. unfortunately she was in one of her longer relationships. but the time came when the boy admitted his feelings (it was her 21st birthday). she wasn’t too sure about her feelings for him, they were after all “just friends” and things were breaking up with that other relationship. for the next 4 months she went back and forth but could only see him as her best friend. that was, until… he kissed her. it was late on new years eve eve (yep two eve’s because it was december 30) and then on the more formally observed new years eve, the cat was out of the bag as their friends caught them kissing around midnight.

the boy and the girl ended up making things official. i think it would be fair to say they both thought this was a dream come true. until it wasn’t. things got really messy, really quick, as it so happens in relationships. after some really good times and some really bad times, it ended. they tried being friends but it’s true what they say, boys and girls are never just friends. give and take, back and forth, with external factors breaking in, things eventually spiraled into chaos and then nothingness. the boy and the girl not only lost a boyfriend/girlfriend but a best friend.

what followed is hard to say, because each experienced things so differently. they were after all, still a boy and a girl. she ended up moving on because that is all that made sense. and she was learning lots, about who she was and who she was supposed to be. she also entered into what seemed a fairly serious relationship, lasting a few months, during this time she did not communicate with the first boy they were strangers. a place the girl had never hoped for or imagined but necessary. according to him, the boy spent his time in isolation.  because of the rift in the boy and girl’s relationship he found himself separated from many of the mutual friends that he loved.  it took a while but the boy realized that this time of isolation was intended to strengthen him; to serve as that time in every boy’s life where he has to grow up.  he made sure to keep himself apprized on the happenings of the girl.  he learned to be excited for her from afar hoping but not waiting for a day when he could tell her that his love had never left, that she still was in fact ‘the girl’ in his eyes.

as fate would have it, the original two were reconciled. yet no longer just a boy and girl but a little more matured. they started hanging out again. the connection between the two, even with all the time apart, even now just as friends reacquainting, was undeniable. just as before there was something different when they got together, they connected on a different level. and it was nice.

summer came, they spent time together often until she was out of town for a month; and then, summer went. on the tail end of that season, after an evening happy hour together, she (the now more matured girl) realized in an instant she really did love him (definitely not a boy anymore but becoming a wonderful man). she thought lots, and talked lots with friends and those wiser than her, realizing the implications of what this could mean and overwhelmed by what was at stake. she took time to know for certain this was no fleeting feeling. turns out it wasn’t! and he, he still wanted to be with her, a real prince charming, and together they chose to give this romance another shot. one last shot.

as it turns out, that one last shot was worthwhile. because this last weekend he asked her to marry him and she, of course, said yes. and neither one will say happily ever after, but they will be best friends forever.

5 Responses to “//the short version of the story”

  1. Auntie Laurie 28 February 2011 at 5:48 am #

    Congrats, Sweetie, we are so very happy for you….Forever After, too!

  2. Maria 28 February 2011 at 8:02 am #


  3. Alyssa Elliott 1 March 2011 at 7:40 pm #

    a beautiful story… and it continues 🙂

  4. emilyjohnsonfitness 7 March 2011 at 2:28 pm #

    oh my goodness catie…how did i not know about your fantastic blog. i now love you even just a little bit more (if that were even possible!). and better yet, how did i not know about your engagement!?! CONGRATULATIONS my dear, we shall have to do some burpees in your honor 🙂

  5. loftyappetite 16 March 2011 at 2:18 pm #

    congratulations and thanks for sharing your story! my relationship is similar in that we were first best friends, who for a long while, never imagined it would ever be more. those relationships truly are the best 🙂

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